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Tuesday
Jul 29,2008
by Lynn Thomas

Being in a relationship not easy, everyone knows that. What puts a huge strain on a relationship is when your partner begins to feel like you are no longer supporting him, but are suddenly in competition with him. Reading the subtle signs that this is becoming a problem can help you nip this problem before it is too late.

This can be a real problem in relationships between people who are both ambitious and competitive. By the time you notice it, it may have already driven a wedge between you and him. Rori Raye describes “boy energy” as that aggressive approach that women use to achieve great things. This ‘boy energy’ can completely wreck your relationship. It is important to avoid letting this happen by paying attention to the warning signs.

It should be easy to tell if this is a problem for you. He may suddenly shy away from competitive activities, like board games or exercise. If he declines your invitations to participate in competitive activities consistently, you can be sure that there is trouble in paradise.

Despite the natural confidence of a competitive man, it doesn’t take much to throw his game off. There are a lot of ways of doing this, from talking over him to being a sore loser when he wins. If you make him feel as though you are his rival, his sense of place in your life is threatened.

You need to understand the role that you play in his life if you want to really get why these things are destructive to your relationship. He wants to feel like you love him, respect him, and accept him. When you stop giving him the love, respect, and acceptance he needs, it begins to chip away at his confidence in the relationship. That doubt is poisonous.

Once you become aware that there is a problem, you need to start focusing on the solution. Start by understanding why you feel a need to compete with him. You see, most of the time when women are insecure, we seek affirmation through praise. If you were really 100% secure, you would be offering support and praise to him instead of seeking it for yourself.

You can turn things around before they become critical if you just take the time to notice this problem as soon as it begins. As long as you take the time to consider what it would feel like to be in his shoes, you will be able to understand why this is a problem. No one likes to be one-upped, especially by their mate! Next time a competitive situation arises, be encouraging and supportive. Be generous and kind rather than selfish and self-serving. By making his victories your own, your relationship will thrive by being mutually supportive and loving.

Keeping it Real When Online Dating

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Friday
Jul 18,2008
by Pam Baldwin

One may be tempted to try the seemingly simplistic and fast path of online dating. The numerous sites that provide this service offer users the chance at true love with minimal wait time. The appeal is great - you have a chance to leave your boring life behind and transition to an exciting new phase that you can share with someone special.

Creating an online profile that reflects the real you is possible. You can even be as exciting as you imagine in your mind. Much of the trouble in making yourself exciting online is that we do not see ourselves as creative people.

One of the most popular tasks in the online dating site is the heading. This mystical sentence will have charming and available (and possibly rich!) partners click on your profile. Somehow ‘Overwhelmed Professional in Need of Psychiatric Care’ does not sound as romantic as ‘Sexy and Passionate Fashionista Seeks True Love’.

The best thing to do is brainstorm. Ask your friends what your most attractive personality feature is and make a list. Include two or three of those words. Creating the online profile that reflects the real you starts with the heading. Make it short, just four or five words.

Do you have a unique hobby or opinion on an issue? Use that as part of your heading. That allows people who agree with you to click on your profile and stay long enough to read it. Focus on what you are passionate about in life. Everyone has a vocal opinion on something.

No one wants to truthfully describe physically themselves to anyone unless they are a fashion model. There are code words, if you will, that you can use online. The description part of creating an online profile that reflects the real you is extremely tough. Many people leave this part blank. That is a mistake!

Regardless of your body type, there will be somebody who makes a perfect match. If you think you’re a little overweight, list yourself as curvy. It portrays your appearance, without making it sound like you’re unhappy with your looks. Besides, many people enjoy a certain lushness in their partners, so let them find you! Be sure not to focus on anything negative though. Everybody has a great feature that is worth showing off, so find what your best attribute is.

Make sure that you don’t reveal any information that identifies you personally, like your physical address. You may have more than one person that you’d like to talk to before you decide to try a relationship. Thus, it’s best to contact people online or by telephone before meeting with anybody.

Creating an online profile is easy and accurately reflects the true you. During the process, you can explore and affirm positive points of your personality and appearance. Make this an opportunity to explain everything great about you, both mentally and physically. You’re online experience is sure you be satisfactory!

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Friday
Jul 18,2008
by Pam Baldwin

Just the sound of the word love, brings most of us peace and serenity. That tiny, powerful word can mean so much to so many. The process, the courtship, the falling in love feeling, the idea that you want to share your lives together everything that love is about, makes our lives worth living.

But, how do we go about finding our best friend and soulmate? In today’s busy society, this can be a challenge. How do we have the time to look? One clear solution to this, is to try an online dating website. Can we really find true love via computer? The answer to that question is, Yes we can! Now, how to we find the right online dating service. Let’s begin.

Everyone has heard stories from friends, coworkers, family, Dr. Phil, Oprah about the ahappily ever aftera. I have experienced this joyous occasion first hand meeting men on the world wide web. My best friend who now is married with a beautiful little girl, met his wife to be by simply seeing her picture on an Online Dating Website-he just knew. He used eHarmony but there are thousands to choose from.

Iave caught your interest I see, otherwise you wouldnat be reading on. How can you tell which website is best for you? Consider a few pointers I used, such as which one do you hear most about from your friends and associates? Which one can you afford? Keeping your budget in mind is just playing it smart. Most companies allow you to post your stats or profile for free.

Here are some hints for creating your profile and youare on your way. a Finding recent photos of yourself, be realistic and truthful. Donat try to portray yourself as weighing 125 when youare really closer to 300 pounds, the truth will come out when you meet, best to be honest. a The personality profile helps them find your match, what are you looking for?a Be honest, be honest, be honest.

Now, that youave taken the first steps, youare out there, thereas someone who is interested in you and atime for a date. ahas it really been that long since Iave been out on a date? I donat know what to do or where to begin!a Where to meet? Where to go? Have you decided on what you both want to do? How will you recognize the other person?

Rules for meeting:a Public places: always choose a public place, coffee shops are great casual places. (safety first)a Be yourself: Why try to be someone youare not, just to please someone you donat even know yet. Just be you!a Stay positive, lighthearted and full of fun

Perhaps the man/woman of your dreams is just a phone call away. Online Dating Services are unique, casual and trying to believing. Isnat your future soulmate worth it? What have you got to lose? A mouseclick away and he/she could be waiting!

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Friday
Jul 18,2008
by Pam Baldwin

Ahh, the word love. It has always been a powerful topic of conversation. Love has many meanings and just the sound of it alone can bring joy and peace to whoever is speaking that one little 4 letter word. It’s amazing how many meanings one word can have. We court, we fall in lust or love, we marry and we create rich and abundant lives with our partner.

Finding that special someone with busy lives suggests we use the tool that reaches the maximum audience-the internet. Yes, Iam speaking of dating websites: an Online Dating Service. Itas an alternative to finding true love the traditional way! Letas find out more.

Happily ever after, we hear about it from friends, family and coworkers, we read about it on blogs and hear gossip at the water cooler (or capicchino bar). I myself have had the rare opportunity to experience some great friendships in the world wide web. eHarmony boasts my good friend, is where he met his now wife, simply by seeing her picture, he knew she was Miss Right. Happily married now with a beautiful daughter, is enough to spark my interest.

I have sparked your interest as well, since youare reading on. How do you know Mr/Miss Right? They are so many websites, which one do you choose? Ask your friends? Family? Which name keeps popping up in conversations, keeping in mind your budget. Many sites allow initial profile set ups for free.

Here are some hints for creating your profile and youare on your way. a Finding recent photos of yourself, be realistic and truthful. Donat try to portray yourself as weighing 125 when youare really closer to 300 pounds, the truth will come out when you meet, best to be honest. a The personality profile helps them find your match, what are you looking for?a Be honest, be honest, be honest.

Now, that youave taken the first steps, youare out there, thereas someone who is interested in you and atime for a date. ahas it really been that long since Iave been out on a date? I donat know what to do or where to begin!a Where to meet? Where to go? Have you decided on what you both want to do? How will you recognize the other person?

Rules for meeting:a Public places: always choose a public place, coffee shops are great casual places. (safety first)a Be yourself: Why try to be someone youare not, just to please someone you donat even know yet. Just be you!a Stay positive, lighthearted and full of fun

Online dating can be a great new experience and a helpful tool. A great way to meet new friends and perhaps that love and companionship we all long for. Even the man/woman of your dreams. The only way to find out with certainty, is to try it. At very least you can advise your friends in the future of your experiences when youare asked the questionaaever tried online dating?a. What have you got to lose and you have so much to gain. Your true love could be waitinga

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Managing Your Time when Meeting Women - Part 1

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Thursday
Jul 17,2008
by Vin DiCarlo

Dating can be your best pal.

…OR your worst adversary.

A lot of time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.

Then there’s that common phrase, “He thinks with his… You know.”

Well it can be hard to NOT think that way if you aren’t physically satisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We make our actions to achieve things and influence the world in a positive way.

Balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals is one of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced.

When you are single, dating can take a lot of time. If you don’t know what you’re doing, women will suck away at your time.

Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling… there’s nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU DON’T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, but so do women.

In fact, it’s the nature of a woman to take up the man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there’s a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

There is also a urges in men that completely take over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most time of your life.

I want you take a moment and ask this to yourself, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”

Now I’m willing to bet it wasn’t “money,” or “lots of my free time,” or “control over my life.”

It was probably something like “feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”

I think men have problems with how they use their time with women in two ways.

First, they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable, making them overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much money or time to a girl.

Second, men think that they are “getting” something valuable when a girl spends time with them.

Society brainwashes guys into believing that women are a prize to attain, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.

It’s not TRUE!

The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now it can be really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.

It is hard to notice the mental habits because these are subtle and you’ve been doing them for years.

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Some Good Online Dating Tips for Women

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Thursday
Jul 17,2008
by Joseph Scott

As a woman, when looking for free online dating tips you should always look for online dating tips that make sense. It can be difficult to find good online dating tips for women, but if you look hard enough you should be able to find some practical online dating tips for women that can help you avoid trouble. Avoiding potential trouble from predators that use the internet as their hunting ground, are the primary online dating tips geared toward women.

But there are other things to watch out for when using online dating services and important things to remember as you use their service.Several reputable online dating services take complaints about their clients very seriously as they try and do a good job of screening out potential criminals.

So, one of the first online dating tips for women that can be given is not only something that will help you, but also others that use the online dating service.To help protect future clients, always report shady characters to the online dating service so that the website can take the appropriate actions.

Taking everything very slow is of all the online dating tips for women the best piece of advice. You run the risk of becoming the victim of a predator if you give out too much information or become too comfortable with someone you meet on an internet dating service.

If someone has a real interest in you as a person and not as a victim then it is perfectly fine to take your time and get to know that person as well as you need to before you open up to them with other personal information. The best online dating tips for women all have to do with taking your time and getting to know the person before you open up to them too much and it is up to you as to what that pace is.

Google it Before You Meet Them

There are a great many male criminals and predators out there using internet dating services and women should be especially careful when using online dating services. Put a prospective date’s name through an online search before you agree to a date, which is a very basic online dating tip for women that many women seem to forget. When you send someone’s name through an internet search You would be shocked at what you can come up with. Before you agree to that first meeting, make sure to protect yourself and find out as much as you can about your prospective date.

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Thursday
Jul 17,2008
by Vin DiCarlo

Dating can be your best friend.

…OR your worst enemy.

Often, a guy can feel like a slave to his biological need to procreate.

Then there’s that common phrase, “He thinks with his… You know.”

Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are physically unsatisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We need to achieve things and influence the world in a good way. And we are doers of it.

Balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals is one of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced.

When you are single, dating can take a lot of time. If you don’t know what you’re doing, women will suck away at your time.

Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park… now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON’T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, but so do women.

In fact, it’s the nature of a woman to take up the man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there’s a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, most men want to give their time to women. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

There is also a urges in men that completely take over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get of you making the most of your life, your time.

I want you to take a second and ask yourself, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”

Now I’m willing to bet it wasn’t “money,” or “lots of my free time,” or “control over my life.”

It was probably something like “relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”

There are two ways that I think why men have problems with how they use their time with women.

First, they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable, making them overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much money or time to a girl.

Second, men think that they are “getting” something valuable when a girl spends time with them.

Society brainwashes men to believe that women are a prize to claim, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.

That’s so untrue!

Women are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE! The best thing is see a women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less.

Now getting out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women is really hard.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for years.

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Dating Tips for Men: Time Management - Part 1

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Thursday
Jul 17,2008
by Vin DiCarlo

Dating can be your best pal.

…OR your worst enemy.

Often, a guy can feel like a slave to his biological need to procreate.

Then there’s that common phrase, “He thinks with his… You know.”

Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are physically unsatisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We make our actions to achieve things and influence the world in a positive way.

Balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals is one of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced.

When you are single, dating can consume a lot of time. Women will suck away at your time if you don’t know what you’re doing.

Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park… now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON’T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, but so do women.

In fact, it’s the nature of a woman to take up the man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there’s a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, most men want to give their time to women. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

Guys have also a urges that can completely take over your thinking.

Both of these things can get of you making the most of your life, your time.

I want you to take a second and ask yourself, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”

Now I’m willing to bet it wasn’t “money,” or “lots of my free time,” or “control over my life.”

It was probably something like “relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”

I think guys have some difficulties with how they use their time with women in two ways.

First, they think that the gifts they REALLY want to give aren’t that valuable, so they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman.

Second, men think that they are “getting” something valuable when a woman spends her time with them.

Guys was brainwash by the society to believe that women are a prize to attain, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.

That’s so untrue!

The best naturals out there see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now it is really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for years.

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What Makes A Man Desirable?

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Wednesday
Jul 16,2008
by Pam Baldwin

Have you ever thought about what women are really looking for when it comes to a man? Most men probably never seriously consider this question. Women strive for improvement constantly in an effort to find and hold on to a man, but men are not doing anything to figure out what would make women happy.

With so many different types of women out there, it is not surprising that each one has her own thoughts about what qualities the perfect man would possess. Each is looking for that special combination, but there are many traits that every woman appreciates.

Good looks are usually nice, but not the most important thing. After all, how many times have you seen a gorgeous woman with an average looking guy? Didn’t you always wonder why? It’s because those men more than make up for their less than perfect physical attributes with a winning combination of confidence, charm, and personality. They are able to give women what they truly want.

Along those same lines, if a man has respect for himself, he will also treat his lady with respect, which is of utmost importance to most women. That certain charm will always win her over quicker than crude pickup lines and tacky jokes. Confidence will also lead a man to true happiness, which will help him make and keep his woman happy as well.

Remember to make an effort to please your woman, but don’t go overboard. It shouldn’t seem like you’re trying too hard. Something that is very important is to actually listen when she talks. Act interested in what she is saying and to her responses to questions you have asked. This will let her know that you are interested, and you will also become privy to what she wants and needs from you. If you listen closely, you will certainly learn what women are really looking for in a man.

On line dating makes it very easy to answer the question “what are women really looking for in a man.” If you decide to find a date on the internet there are many websites that can make this happen, and some are even free! The advantage of using this dating tool is that for each profile that is created on the website of your choice, a questionnaire provides all the answers you need to understand what the woman’s likes and dislikes are and what kind of a man she is searching for. But if this type of dating is not your style, then you will have to do the reasearch yourself.

A man must show a woman he loves her and cares about her on a regular basis. If a woman is questioning a man’s love for her, she will not be happy and arguments in this case are inevitable. Men seem to think that all women enjoy arguing and that this is something that cannot be changed. What they don’t know is that arguments are fully avoidable with the right behavior and management.

Try and compare women to flowers - delicate and in need of nurturing. Take care of a woman, and she will bloom into someone even more beautiful. Neglect will cause a flower or a woman to wilt, so show your appreciation daily. Small gestures go a long way, and a compliment at just the right time will always make her smile. Remember, if your woman is always smiling, you can be sure you are what she truly wants.

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Dating Tips: Attracting a “10

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Sunday
Jul 13,2008
by Vin DiCarlo

If you are interested in meeting, attracting and keeping a “10″, then you should read this letter.

But first, let’s go waaay back…

Back in high school, I had a girl classmate that was so perfect.

She was intelligent, cool, and so beautiful that it was hard to look at her (and yet I couldn’t stop my eyes looking)…

She was friendly to everyone and was one of the popular kids in school.

We talked occasionally, and looking back I realize we were flirting (I was too stupid to realize at the time).

I wanted to ask her to senior prom so badly…but I chickened out at the last minute.

A few years later I realized she had a crush on me all senior year.

I’ve talked to a lot of guys and this seems a pretty common experience among them there was this ONE SPECIAL WOMAN who you crushed on from afar, and they missed an opportunity with her, or she broke your heart…

Ah, the unreachable “10,” a perfect woman that every men dream but seems hard to attain.

I have a lot to say about the concept of “10’s,” In deeper sense they are another “breed” of women, but it is on the way they think that makes them so.

Understanding your own fascination with female perfection, and understanding the reality of extremely beautiful women will help you resolve this conundrum, and maybe help you find that “perfect girl” for yourself.

First of all, “10″ is just a myth. No human being can be considered as perfect. You CANNOT say that a woman who looks prettier than the women is more “valuable”.

The woman that is perfect for you is the one who can turns you on and have a great chemistry with you. That is the only true “10″.

The world is full of 10’s, you just need to have the skills and ability to approach a lot of women and make an options for yourself.

It will be a failure on your part if you treat women differently just basing solely on looks or on whose much prettier.

Why?

Because almost all men do that.

A woman knows what you’re thinking and sees you as shallow.

But of course there are certain women that seem on another “level” of beauty than the other. And they are treated much differently than other women.

You need to understand on how you will deal with these kinds of women.

As I’ve said, you shouldn’t treat women “differently.”

Let me explain it.

You shouldn’t treat a woman BETTER than the other women. But there are things that you need to know.

First, she don’t like a guy that chases her for her looks alone.

More than anything else, a woman values a guy that appreciates her personality.

Now for your own sake I’m going to give you a heads up.

There are two types of “10’s.”

High self esteem, and low self-esteem.

Low self esteem 10’s are pretty common. They are used to being wanted for their looks, but they know that they didn’t EARN that attention, so they have a guilt complex.

In fact, most of their lives are probably coasted, and are in complete dumbasses.

It may sounds not good but I call it like it is.

These type of women will respond to jerk-behavior. Taking away their validation will make them flip out and do anything to get it back.

Anything.

(Aside from it, these women usually suck in bed and when you get involved with them, they are in total head cases.)

Meanwhile, the high self-esteem 10’s are women that have had a taste of the elite - early from the start they realized that high levels of society were attainable to them, they exert an effort be intelligent, successful and make the most of their lives.

They know that they can get closer to a great life than everyone else, and they are motivated to put a lot of hard work to attain that.

Usually HSE 10’s are intellegent, have good attitudes, have a direction in life and have lots of interests beyond being clubbing.

In fact, most of beautiful women I’ve dated didn’t go to the club. They just spend their nights being with their families, reading, or having a nice dinner with friends (or studying if they were in college).

One of the interesting thing about this types of women are that they are single for long periods of time while in-between boyfriends. Why?

It is because they have high standards for themselves, and this makes most men either too intimidated to ask them out, or act too needy and pathetic around them, it’s rare that they meet another man who is on their level.

But here’s the good news. You will find these women the easiest to attract when you understand The Attraction Code.

The Attraction Code is about being the best man you can be, being a “male 10.”

When you start to embody the Attraction Code you will surely notice an interesting thing.

There is an Auto-Rejection Mechanism that I call where some women will try to protect themselves from being rejected by you, by rejecting YOU first. This is where you’ll get odd responses from less attractive women - they will occasionally be rude to you because they know they’re not on your level.

But the most attractive, cool women will respond much differently…you’ll be amazed to see the most beautiful women warm right up to you as soon as you approach - whether on the street or in the bar - because they can see that you are on their “level.”

She thinks to herself, “finally, a guy who can hang with me; he’s confident and treats me like a real person. And he’s the only guy who’s actually tried to talk to me today, instead of whistling from his car.”

The Attraction Code is meant for these kinds of women. Of course you’ll also enjoy plenty of “adventures” with all kinds of women, but ultimately this is about having the option of dating the hottest, highest quality women.

There are lot of 10’s out there waiting for you.

Don’t spend another year missing something that you could’ve been enjoying right now.

Vin

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