Dating can be your best friend.

…OR your worst enemy.

Often, a guy can feel like a slave to his biological need to procreate.

Then there’s that common phrase, “He thinks with his… You know.”

Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are physically unsatisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We need to achieve things and influence the world in a good way. And we are doers of it.

Balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals is one of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced.

When you are single, dating can take a lot of time. If you don’t know what you’re doing, women will suck away at your time.

Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park… now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON’T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, but so do women.

In fact, it’s the nature of a woman to take up the man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there’s a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, most men want to give their time to women. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

There is also a urges in men that completely take over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get of you making the most of your life, your time.

I want you to take a second and ask yourself, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”

Now I’m willing to bet it wasn’t “money,” or “lots of my free time,” or “control over my life.”

It was probably something like “relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”

There are two ways that I think why men have problems with how they use their time with women.

First, they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable, making them overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much money or time to a girl.

Second, men think that they are “getting” something valuable when a girl spends time with them.

Society brainwashes men to believe that women are a prize to claim, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.

That’s so untrue!

Women are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE! The best thing is see a women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less.

Now getting out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women is really hard.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for years.